Don’t just have a friendship, but have a relationship with a person. In this past year, I’ve learned that having a friendship with a person is nowhere as meaningful as having a relationship with a person. Right now you may be thinking, isn’t a relationship between 2 people that are in love with each other and are dating and all that? Well if you think that, then I’m possibly dating a bunch of people right now. However, let’s take a moment to pause.
Friendship (n.): the emotions or conduct of friends; the state of being friends
Relationship (n.): the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected
I don’t know about you guys but I honestly do not like having friendships with people. If you take the time to really look into the 2 definitions that I posted, it is very clear and obvious that relationships are better than friendships. Why don’t you want to be connected and intimate with a person? There are a couple of problems though that many people will face and some of them may be:
- I don’t think I’m capable of loving a person that much and actually taking the time, effort, and love to actually develop a relationship with a person.
- It’s weird to have a relationship with the person of the same sex.
- I think I’m just content with having a friendship with a person rather than a relationship.
- Why should I even try growing attached to a person or even investing in them if I know they will only disappoint me in the future or we’ll eventually grow apart?
- Relationships are exclusively for couples, not for friends.
- What is the difference at all?
In having a relationship with a person, there is something more profound to it. This is not your simple say hey to this person in the hallway or at Chickfila, this is not the simple let’s hang out every once in awhile, this is not the simple friendship that only goes as far as “What are you doing today?” or “How are you?” or just basic conversations.
Nope. No. Not at all.
This relationship consists of being able to fully express yourself to this person. This mean beings able to be at ease and comfortable with another person and able to share everything about you whether it be your past, the thoughts on your mind, or whatever may be occurring in your life. This relationship isn’t based on a simple mutual knowledge of each other. This is about diving into each other’s lives and letting all your walls down. This is about investing in a person so that you may always have this person in your life. Why would you want to let go of someone who knows so much about you and has invested in you a lot as well? We hold on and fight for the people that we genuinely love and care about.
These relationships are meant to be worthwhile. For me, I find potential in every friendship to become a relationship. I don’t think people have quite understood why I do all the things I do for people, but it’s because I’m fighting for what we have. In a relationship with a person, you do whatever you can to prove that you love and care about a person. These bonds aren’t worthless. It’s time to make them feel like something more.
I enjoy the pursuit of a person. We should all pursue one another. We should be fighting for each other. We should be fighting for our friendships. I think everyone for the most part enjoys watching a guy pursue a girl and doing all they can to win them over. From the cliché and old school method of buying flowers, to writing letters, to movie dates, to dinner and lunch dates, to cheesy pick-up lines, or to just complete falling head over heels for a girl. But why should this only be for a man and a woman? As a firm believer and admirer of the pursuit of women, I feel like we should be doing this to everyone. Everyone deserves to be pursued.
In our pursuit of each other, we should be doing whatever it takes to fight for and keep the people that we most love and care about. We should be winning each other over. It’s not that we are trying to seek approval or favoritism from others but that we want to show and express our love to our friends and family. I do a lot of this simply by finding ways in which I can prove to people that I love them. If there’s anything more that I truly enjoy in this world, it’s just merely loving on people.
Loving on people though is another post that I will write about.
So my challenge for you today is to look at all the friendships and bonds that you have with the people around you. Do you feel that you want to take your friendships to the next level and begin to invest in people for the long run? Do you really prize the relationships you have with people now? Are there people around you who have the potential for a great relationship?
The most important question though, “Are you ready to pursue and pour your life out for the people you truly love and care about?”
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